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on the original family, friends more familiar to psychology, the definition of this concept may also have to understand. but for the ordinary reader, to mention to the original family, may also feel some strange, original family really mean what?
Hu: family of origin refers to the combination of father and mother into, based on the presence of each of us. original parents and family relationship between the children get along inside, there are many mysteries in the cause and effect. because the West has a psychologist, is the promoter mm EQ Daniel. Goleman (Daniel Goleman) [Note 1] mm he had a word, that in human history, for the causality of parent-child relationship is most clearly Freud. In other words, the master of psychology Sigmund Freud developed the psychoanalytic school, which is actually a very detailed description of his father , between mother and child psychological crux of a very wonderful points, including the so-called Electra complex, Oedipus complex. are buried deep in everyone's heart with this experience of the opposite sex, it is worth exploring. such as Most girls have Electra complex, and so she grew to adulthood and met her partner, often would be the projection of childhood to your partner Electra complex. So, as with an Electra complex with which to mother's opposition, and so was among the girls with her mother, usually have a very esoteric subconscious competition. I remember when I was young, really felt like the father and daughter as the little Valentine. in such a fashion in China say, right?
Yes, and the feelings between father and daughter seemed deeper.
Hu: particularly deep. because most couples have some homework between the fact to learn, that is, Buddhism is often talk about sentence: It is not karmic creditors will not take care of in together.
Minato in together, there will be a lot of habits to personality transformation. character of the model must be in-depth insight to the two adjust the relationship between individuals. so they get along with the process, there are already some problems. When the child is born out, the parents, especially the relationship between father and daughter so well, that the mother will feel as if she could not tell her Mr produce as close a natural, comfortable kind of interaction, there is a will there is a quiet envy for her daughter. These things are bit by bit a child in foster children, and as a child may feel the activities of an unconscious inside.
it is an unconscious activity, that child may be feeling, but he / she does not clearly aware of.
Hu: He is no way to interpretation, there is no way of , there is no way of knowing. In fact, parents have no way to fully understand their own, there are many descriptions of this psychology, including the son of the Oedipus complex, patricide complex, where the first complex. object relations psychology mm, as Klein Master [Note 2] mm raised her children at the beginning of sexual feelings and sexual desire, when will the complex between the parents with some psychological sticking point, which is that we can get to know. we were young the first heterosexual experience, in fact, our father or mother, they are our first love object. the love of the object interaction model will become a foundation for future relations between the sexes.
that such same sex, such as the daughter and between the mother might have a relationship between exclusion and confrontation.
Hu: Yes. my personal experience, this exclusive relationship, I was a kid is very sensitive and can realize. I do not understand why the mother I have so much of the dissatisfaction, at any time with the moment you will realize that there is always her eyes with a desired correction of your criticism. child I should not make mistakes all the time, but the outpouring of the mother do not accept that the mentality has become almost a spiritual tone to her. This caused me to doubt that he is not the biological mother, and will have a deep, deep without being loved, is not enough recognition of care and The lack of a sense of inclusiveness. The lack of a sense of gender relations in future I will cause the above said mm mm like psychology have addictive tendencies, because our hearts are not filling a pothole.
In fact, each When young people are very successful, each child who has a big ego. but in such a process is treated improperly, the holes can cause psychological. This may be brought inside the pit is not sense of security, lack of a sense of inferiority, self-denial tendencies, low esteem, or self-growth practices in a lack of capacity above, must take a very long time to confirm their value. Even with a high achievement, but still feel not good enough. like the kind of mentality, almost all the time with their parents in a small very delicate interaction between the formation of these slowly.
from the original family that the psychological holes. sounds particularly heavy!
Hu: I translated In his experience of these potholes in the world. In fact, these holes which all of the negative emotional energy is not existential, nor is it never changes, it is not a constant character. But because these holes are not complement, we always felt in my heart there are some scarce. medical research in accordance with bio-energy, the mood of these holes, in fact, all the pent-up emotion in our veins inside seven rounds.
in the vein of seven?
Hu : The human body has a central meridian, in the vein of the western world [4] study was very thorough, almost all of both biomedical and information related to medical research on the clock. Our thoughts and Eastern Buddhism Buddhist practice, research odd The Ba Mai's more like're putting the class. but to explore the top seven in the vein, the yoga system and the system is relatively more hidden secret. So, the western world seems to be the secret of yoga and the relatively large reservoir. These scientists, including psychologists, they are in fact slowly into the exploration of energy medicine. They found almost all of these early emotional stagnation in the veins of our seven rounds, especially the following three rounds, that is, round sea [5], umbilical round [Note 6] and those parts of the solar plexus. undersea round of the perineum in our area, the navel cord round the next site. solar plexus than in our navel, including the liver, spleen and stomach, ten duodenum together the energy of this center.
feel that many of the adults living in the upper abdomen was bored, chest, abdomen, there seems to have a sense of stagnation. that there is no way to breathe down to the pubic region, upper and lower energy barrier, You do not have a sense of joy, full of life among the anxiety. in fact it related to our early experience in the original family, since the are suppressed, suppressed down a lot of negative energy.
the negative energy of the In the following three rounds were accumulated?
Hu: Yes, this wheel is very abstract. If you do not enter into the awareness of Qimai, there is no way to understand and realize that even the physical card to the existence of these chakras. Most people do not know the energy of the body so esoteric center, when we increase the energy of activation to a level or when, or the awakening of our innate potential, these chakras will be in the inside turn. So these chakras to be very active, to be able to rotate, and the vibration frequency of the body to be very relaxed, very active, this person will have a sense of joy. If you are still the vibration of the body, chakras choke, and then there will be a deep inexplicable the depressed feeling, such as making a lot of money, work accomplished, or the envy of everyone with a lot of conditions, but there is still no positive feeling of life.
this problem with the original family relationship with any specific ?
Hu: are closely related, are coming in bit by bit impart some information, including ideas, information and belief the information systems, ideologies, values of information. this information through the neural pathways in our bodies material instilled come. instil the information will come in after the body in the meridians, chakras stuck inside the body.
instance, like my personal experience is that I do not come with the mother at, but I do not agree with this family, do not agree with my childhood growing settlements, the environment, most of the older person's life, beliefs and values. because they almost have a lot of criticism and self-centered tendencies, an authoritative character. is to deny others the ability, talent or cognitive, and only thing he is right, only his all, whether it is ideas, concepts, arguments, actions, and even his style is the world's most accurate. In fact, the [Note 7] is a lot of very important people. In my youth, when there are legislators around the settlement, National Assembly, Attorney, member of Taiwan's environment, which are considered the elite of the early molecules and the so-called privileged class. These people have a lot of conditions, but you do not think they mind is open, do not think they can treat others equally, so I do not agree with this family background.
When a person does not agree with family background when, according to biomedical view of the sea round you, that is the foundation of your existence, likely to have some negative information. there have been some negative message to the energy of the sea round lock, lock will then affect our two legs, while psychological characteristics of the above, can also cause a sense of realism is not enough or not enough capacity to cope with reality, including the concept of money to do things confused sense of reality or not. Jufan how the sale of housing in relation to the matter, or how to deal with the work of the matter, or the implementation of all the things that they will have a tendency to muddle. Such people often go on to the spiritual level of thinking and to develop, and that his head would be developed, his leg is very weak. If Taoist Zhan Zhuang exercises to do, there are some people who blocked the legs of energy meridians, and he stood near future, will be shaking. When walking, they also feel is not very stable, if not the power of two legs. This is related to the energy center , and the kind of original family, or between parent and child agree that the concept of the ancestral heritage and insufficient related. This is a medicine and energy medicine information deep inside a mystery.
to hear that lecture, some questions have a clear insight feeling.
Hu: But how do we focus? If our early formation of such a state of mind when, then we grow up into the early to how the issue has been planted. In psychology, also talk about Prior to decide their fate can not cry, do not to have anger expression, not angry. In fact, the performance of every child in the impulses of desire this time, are very natural. The original desire to have a moderate expression should be pipeline. But if parents suppress it, so pay attention to the rules, then the child will be in three years before the original desire, the original emotion, the expression of desire, instinctive desire to survive, including the desire to diet, or eat and drink all Lazard have suppressed the desire to live, not appropriate to express the future will cause some problems. The children in sexual desire, and in fact, is an early show time. According to the scientists now in the womb, the embryo in fact, already begun sexual respond. the child at an early stage, there will be exploration of his sexual organs, while the Chinese parents on the matter that is the nature of evil, will go to suppress his exploration.
is very taboo.
Hu: Very taboo, as if there is no way to get it on the table and talk, it is not able to teach children. In fact, there are very many people are early sexual repression, or the improper attitude towards sex, and cause the following two pulse round of the block. because the second round of the energy hub is the navel, pubic region of the site, it in fact with our instinct, survival instinct, and the use of willpower, but also a concept of money because money is always mm linked with the survival instinct mm related. this energy center block, then not only the surrounding organs, including colon, ovary, uterus will be subject to a number of affected, but also the formation of emotional stagnation, over time it will become tumors of these organs or chronic symptoms. In addition, the above can also cause suppression of willpower.
This is also the creative energy center, you see the interaction between people, the outpouring of emotion and some people particularly comfortable, there is the very rules, a little depressed, passive that to someone else drive his emotional interactions. Some people are completely no way to emotional interaction, the interaction is purely rational thinking. Some people are of a purely routine care, in addition to office things, to solve the problem of work to achieve work tasks, other times he does not know how to communicate with people emotions. This is the early stagnation of energy to show a kind of personality.
is with parents parenting methods are related.
Hu: Yes.
you just mentioned the question on sexual development, in fact, I think, during the Cultural Revolution, the parents in the context of that environment, such as from the dress, we to be able to see, it seems obvious boundaries between men and women. clothes color is gray, the site of female characteristics, it is still subject to some repression. I remember my mother when my puberty, such as when the breasts began to emerge time, or even feel very surprised, said that the children how to grow up so early, so bought the corset is very tight.
Hu: This is very bad, because this part of the energy center of the chest is on behalf of a person a tolerance, as well as the ability to love. In fact, a large chest, a woman, you look closely, she is usually stronger than the ability to love some. relatively poor development of the female breast, she may partial rational, thinking side, but her passion (passion) inadequate. This is because the heart and lung function would be an oppression. Each energy center is near the relevant organs in charge of it. This uniform technology, all of standardization, not to have bright colors or can not have a very bold reveal, these are some of the problems we Oriental Society. In fact, the East has a lot of countries have this problem. you look at Western society, in this respect is more free, so you will find that their creativity is high. their creativity, imagination, and even the outpouring of enthusiasm, vitality and energy of life is not as related to the Eastern world. It is with the original family education-related.
I have interviewed one to Harvard University Ph.D. Anthropology. He was there after school, come back to do a kindergarten. He said, go there to study, feel compared with the local students, that gap is not learning through the hard work to be remedied. Some ideas and ideas, they are naturally flowed, but he is not. He deeply felt the fall, so he came back to do a kindergarten.
Hu: This is the mystery of human potential development. In the Western world of the body spiritual medicine experts, many of them through the publication of many works. because I specialize in publishing consultant, so I read so many things, particularly in relation to the development potential of the chakras. This imagination, thinking capacity, the entire brain system a source of inspiration, in fact, told us in the vein of seven closely related to smooth or not. hub you have to slow activation of the seven energy, and opened, down from a higher dimension of inspiration (inspiration ), and inspired, will produce. You see there are a number of painters, he painted the like into the sublimation, almost without thinking, do not go thinking that there is a continuous supply of direct creative energy constantly out. that you will find these people They are capricious in their daily lives inside, and if we are law-abiding, according to the education point of view, then, Picasso is absolutely capricious, Daly is definitely a lunatic. but their creativity is incredible, the energy center because they do not plug.
Yes, such a genius does quite a few buses. There are Van Gogh, but also feel that way.
Hu: Van Gogh and of course a special number, he was a little manic depression and bipolar disorder tendency, in fact, part of his depression is more and more. When he entered the manic, he would suddenly come out of creativity, which is known as any connection between the serum, which is very deep due to causality. But to the native families, then, inappropriate discipline, the suppression of desire, make the following three important and creativity, or with the original energy of the chakra of blocked, then our creative potential will be hindered.
On the front of your family on the original topic, are very deep impact. As a general reader, it may indeed sound a bit abstract, but it also opens a window, that is, how better to awareness of their body, or to a life of growth.
Hu: Yes. purpose is to help parents who understand that their little bit of every word, every thought, every act, in fact is a very fine, but with a profound influence on information and belief. these things in small children when, in fact, will instill in each moment comes, and then the entire physical and mental development of the child, even his Qimai meridian and chakra have a huge impact.
in your autobiography, with his family background is also very relevant, the mother died earlier time, and then there are some depend on others. So, like the mother died early, do not care, what is the effect on children?
Hu : My grandmother on my one year old when his father, to suffer the village at the time the person inside, those relatives and misunderstanding. her character is very staunch, committed suicide by swallowing opium. The next year, my grandfather also have passed away. My father was carrying him to his sister with him, a young age, a depressive character. He grew up in his uncle's home, grew up living off others, which caused his emotional do not know how to tell human interaction, there is a stagnation of mind. He has not released a lot of deep sadness, then he probably would have a lung disease more than 20 years of age. We speak in Chinese Medicine is sad lung injury, so his entire body with these issues. He into the relations between the sexes, my mother did not know his background of this growth, the impact of what this character. She can only interact with her just this man's situation to understand each other. She felt why the people do not talk, how such a cold , so no sense of how, no way to communicate any enthusiasm. Although the beginning of gender relations at that time the attraction is the enthusiasm, because it has an instinctive need. sexual needs and desire to want to join, make two Personal temporarily open, but when two people live together, to become husband and wife, become a reality leading a poor relationship Youyanjiangcu tea, the enthusiasm will diminish. decline after that everyone with a long history of life on their own in the heart of these emotional wounds and all the holes to get along with each other, but there is no other way to knowledge through a universal understanding of each other.
because of the lack of psychological knowledge of Chinese society, especially our parents generation , so that blame is resentment. my mother, my father has very big hate, I feel my father is a deliberate abuse of her, not only does not give her a warm feeling, but also in the nature of the relationship above the cold her. In fact, I her father is not a deliberate abuse. In fact, my father and potholes with a trauma, a mother looking to find a woman to love him, to take care of him indefinitely to meet the needs of his mother as a role. But my mother is just not like that one. My mother is a relatively heavy sense of reality, she married a Mr. think I should be leading a poor two people together to solve the problem Youyanjiangcu tea money. For my father's emotional needs My mother is ignored. Both sides ignore each other's needs, are not given the kind of treatment you want to approach each other, so how can two people can not run three days a argument with two days a little noisy, a meeting a lot of problems on.
fact your mother but also with their own holes, she also has her original family.
Hu: It is also good, and her original family is also very hard. because of her father is a county, then married two rooms wife, my grandmother was Tian Fang, Tian Fang great wife and two rooms have a baby, each have their own relatives. in my grandfather passed away, two rooms start hostilities, war real estate, competition heritage. my mother 14 years old have to help my grandmother to court, write accusation. the kind of real money, awareness and a sense of crisis is so small from the beginning to develop the.
any pair of men and women together together, must be more or less have some understanding of psychology. In other words, we must go to understand each other's growth history, and his family of origin issues, to solve the interaction between the unconscious at the bottom of the sexes as a mechanized inertial mode of operation. These habitual patterns are difficult to detect. Why should we emphasize the importance of spiritual education, or treatment of body, soul, important because it is a fundamental understanding of life education and life. Without these scientific cognition, we really difficult to deal with relations between the sexes, it is difficult to construct a perfect family to our next generation.
right. you are not perfect in this growing family of origin, grew up, whether it is In your book, or process in a number of lectures, you mention a phenomenon that my father off in a huff when the mother of a man smoking a cigarette in the room, pacing back and forth. that you come for the young said, is not felt as if the day should fall down? This is a child's psychology is a great influence it has?
Hu: Absolutely, especially for the particularly high sensitivity to the child. the child sensitivity Although high, but he do not understand why her mother so depressed, how kind of atmosphere so thick, that what is very, very serious sense of big things to happen. Then mother would often vent their anger at the child unconscious body. She not intentional, but said that no one around to let her vent, only next to the child. She took a mind of their own dissatisfaction with life, projected onto the child, to correct you, to transform you to control your , continue to produce the kind of criticism and negation. this child is concerned, is really too big a negative suggests that it takes a long time to restore confidence, find their own sense of the value of life.
This is an adult in your later, or after the age of 36 to be exact?
Hu: starting from my early thirties, I realized that the call of his life. This call is different from my mother gave me the boot. according to a metaphysical, Jungian depth psychological point of view of astrology, hit 29-year-old is a very important turning point in life. Sanshierli Confucius say, the concept of turning point with the 29-year-old quite similar. In 29 years, we almost always important relationship by people around the edification and impact, we will follow their wishes to develop their own. But after 29 years of age, 30 years old, the call of our hearts will become clear, they begin to have their own direction clear positioning. I'm almost that is at that time, began to realize that I should not go to the performing arts in this direction, I should belong to a more intrinsic scientific, internal evidence, psychological or physical and spiritual direction to go explore a whole. At that time I was determined to make efforts towards this direction was.
that is, brought about by the original family psychological shadow, eventually to achieve through their own repair a relief.
Hu: absolutely can. self-exploration, to listen to inner voice, and then go to early education to understand the personality caused by constraints, and in the end you what a mental model. For example, some mental model is In fact, I see a lot of men have this problem. Men may carry more parental expectations, they can only succeed, especially in the cause of the so-called hard work, must be able to succeed, there is a personal achievement. When he to focus on the achievement of life above, he in fact must be through a lot of willpower to suppress the spontaneous outpouring of emotions and feelings. Over time, the formation of this matter only to work, only more concerned about solving problems and doing things. That other negative emotions that are part of the join key is not his life. So most of them will be after entering the intimate relationship with the object does not know how to get along. he would have closed, do not know how to communicate, do not know reveal how love this problem. These problems will cause the suffering of women.
In fact, many women are facing this problem, but this time you have to understand, must be the original of his family caused his closure, and the emotional nature of the armed. Then how do we put a layer of layers of armor to go untie, to discharge to get rid of it, this is a incredible repair, is also very huge project. This is between the sexes all have to learn.
many parents have such a situation, is to bring the child to her grandmother, or grandmother with child rearing in the process of being with their biological parents did not have much direct contact. such care way what is the impact for children?
Hu: Taiwan this is also common. parents busy, put the kids to the maid, the more commission, the Thai domestic helper, to the servants raised. I daughter, too. My secretary is a nurse, I sometimes busy, she was on behalf of motherhood. I think not to say necessarily have parents to raise children, it is important around the nurturers, and she did not itself love, there is no awareness, she can not realize what he said out of every word, every act, every idea of the impact of the child is. There is her own physical and mental health can be to what extent, For example, when she was caring for the child, focusing on where.
my secretary take care of the child, her focus is very correct. because she is a very health-conscious person, so she will definitely make a child's bowel movements per day, diet, rest, exercise, is not happy, the physical and mental health as the most important. so that even children of single parent families, and she is very happy, very healthy personality. The reason is that people who took her around in a very correct rearing attitude towards her. and we do not give her too much pressure on homework, she do not have to test how well, just put your homework maintain a basic standard. We note that she loves sports and exercise, will encouraged her, and even the above will not be too limited in her playing.
in the expression of desire, including her emotional expression of feelings, or her own doubts to explore a variety of life, you're going to explore her rational, rather than do not understand what her child as. You have the ability to set her friends received a similar reason as discussed. so you can help her build an ability to think independently, and the feeling of being respected. I When your not in a small gain this part, the mother did not give me the respect and recognition.
to think that's it?
Hu: independent thinking is not bad. my mother past writing, she is brain people who have ideas, but also insight. She inspired me in terms of ideology, and these aspects of human observation, it touches gave me a pretty good basic education. When I was very young, she told me about Lu Xun's how good ideas. She has socialist ideas at that time, when women in Taiwan is not so much, I pretty early by the great influence on her.
this is your talent she inherited.
Hu: Yes. for pity in the outlook, I have one more independent space, giving enough.
as parents can give children the best gift, probably some of it.
Hu: I think the best gift, the first is to attach importance to the healthy rest of her life, to develop a good self-health and self-care habits. we were young, eating no idea what is healthy and what unhealthy things are confused. my mother's view is that there is mold in the food it does not matter, there penicillin [Note 8] eat can bring antibiotics. She is not the concept of health, what kind of food is sufficient nutrients, and she has not the concept of food done very oil. For example, she likes chicken soup, a layer of oil floating on top, you have to eat her. I could not eat, but also forced me to eat. sometimes put a couple of days of food, that food has absolutely no energy, leaving a bean, two bean sprouts, but also to have it eaten. rest above the self-rule, there are the basic habits of exercise, how to take care of their own habits, basically no training well. even in the medical concept is wrong. a child was taken away to fight a cold cure of the vaccination, so the blood are ruining. because a lot of antibiotics into the body after , there is no way the body's immune system to play its full function. I think this is the most important foundation.
Why do I say? because I schools by the parents of my daughter has learned several children there are early onset of alopecia, is the head on a face, swollen and began some of the reactions to antibiotics. This fact will cause the body some of the pollution of toxic chemicals, in fact, also caused damage on the meridian. Those parents are not the concept of natural therapy, the child will be healthy this continues to be destroyed. We also found that some parents, they asked the children have to test a hundred points, but not on the large four children, they feel that this is not important. This idea is completely wrong, many parents need to wake up in this area . This is a healthy level.
Second, the psychological level, we give the kids a lot of encouragement, support, respect, like friends and they like to explore and rational sharing, and then as soon as possible to help them understand their own potential where life can be in which direction to develop, earlier call to find his own life. It is also very important. Every child has the innate talent to bring, that part must be early to find and nurture, to help him go .
Again, the spiritual good foundation should be laid as soon as possible. the so-called spiritual basis, in fact, is the ability of self-awareness, insight into the desires and thoughts of an ability. In other words, thoughts and desire should not be holding nose, have the ability to test my every desire, every thought of the bottom, to promote the idea of these desires and what the internal drive, it will not be the anonymous inner drive and desire led by the nose, change no way to call the shots into a man. because these desires are in fact most people from the collective consciousness desire without hesitation, to everyone within the heart of the inside, passing through the family and parents, after it becomes their own unconscious restricted. this section must have insight into the ability to help children early, because this is the development of intelligence is very important.
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