Who is the lover of female college students volunteered

 Who made the female students came to marriage, most people out of the marriage on condition that This, Fujian Normal University Education Center, a mental health teacher that this is their kinds of views that some female students because it is an only child, grew accustomed to rely on, plus there is gender bias in the employer, employment, too much pressure, so they find better conditions to escape competition, as her husband, to find the best one to rely on good shortcut. this analysis is to some extent realistic, in real life you can find such examples. But I think that this explanation is still not in place.
recent China Youth Daily and Tencent Social Survey Center News Center jointly conducted an online survey showed that more than 4,000 people surveyed 55.0% lack of enthusiasm for life, 71.0% of people think that real life is full of anxiety (In my view, the results of this investigation marriage and female college students have a deep inner mind to contact: If female students are passionate about life without anxiety, do not they will not look forward to a better love? If real life offers many opportunities for them can make their own to create a better life, they will be ready to give up before they go live? If the number of female students in the middle of moral depravity does exist, then this fall is not accidental, it is with deep social roots of .
people from their own life experience, I learned, like their parents, relatives and neighbors that ordinary people, not just the difficult employment, employment, medical treatment is followed by difficult problems of housing, children's education is difficult, but in social life, often have a strong sense of deprivation, is sense of exclusion. College students in school with all the positive concept of education, but real life, their education is more direct and effective. Before embarking on society, our Students are not passionate, eager, but full of sorrow, anxiety, fear, and some people even chose to commit suicide.
and as women who enter the society, there are more difficulties than boys. of a female recent expose the film and television actress sex trade event, it is women in a serious competition in the market, a microcosm of the weak position: the existence of our society, the so-called exclusion of legitimate competition, take more humiliation, shame! So, since there is such a gender-female advantage is that you can attach to the rich husband, then why not put this as a way out, as the hope that it?
fact is, its that female college students willing to be wealthy lover is ashamed of these girls, as it is a disgrace to our society; let our daughters, our sisters, loss of dignity, loss of hope, not their own, but all of us, is Each of us!
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Forest dog

 LORRAINE hound dog forest
right there behind him every piece of forest, the land of his survival, but also his spiritual home. Forest luxuriant green and the millennium-old pine stand, cover day blocks out the sun, the sun is injected into the gap along the crown of the original community, and that the slightest light, more dark instead of making the whole forest. sunset the evening, a black bat abruptly swept from the woods, waving wings Sound Toru jungle, do not know where, unknown to tweet tireless insects.
only dog is quiet, in that thick black silence of the night view of the sky. Big Dipper handle spoon where indicated, is his hometown, Now that the smoke curl in the village think about how serene, where gurgling streams, the fragrance of wild flowers, there are shepherd's song hh can in order to survive, dogs left there, came to this eerie forest, the wolf's point called, bear the overbearing and cruel lion, the wolf from the flowers to Guiku number, dog's heart is full of fear and loss, especially in a dark and stormy night, the moon's cold light mercilessly sprinkled throughout the jungle, always moving in dogs Big Dipper the direction of a long spoon handle heavy breathing, woo woo hh hh
forest only believe in power, the beast that the reason high-handed high-handed, because they have sharp claws and vicious heart. dogs will still be remembered in the creek before edges and the kids live together in peace time, he was responsible for their safety, the dogs and his friends, how lovely they are. But now, dogs can only choose to live, he licked the scars on the paws, then and the wolf is a battle their injuries, three wolves surrounded the dogs, to the Last Stand of the situation, the hounds not only with his sharp teeth and claws, and biting the wolf, the wolf dog is not suspected, but their kind, wolves retreat, while the hounds are badly wounded, wolves do not know, dogs do not have the kind of face is the characteristics of wolves, dogs that shed blood, he elongated tongue, a low, groaning hh the forest is silent, the forest was silent and did not pay attention to only the injured dog.
dogs gradually become strong, after that, he and the Wolves battled several times, but also increasingly scars more like a medal as the whole body. The most important is that dog's heart gradually firm, he was no longer afraid of this dark dark woods, dogs have become a stage for the forest, where he dash, enjoying the forest vast. can be dog is alone, fighting alone, alone run, he is a dog, not a wolf beast that he was destined to be alone in the forest, not of their own kind, no other animals can understand him. dog is a dog, have to fight like wolves, gentle temperament and sharp claws to form a strong contrast, in the full moon, dogs are always tears, spoon handle pointing toward the Big Dipper place, where perhaps only beyond the reach of his home, where gurgling streams, fragrant flowers and singing loud and clear shepherd  2   hh
2007 Shanxi Qinyuan 5 at red stone

Original family of the psychological pit

 According to interviews with Miss Ma Wei sorted out the manuscript, I carefully read, I feel a lot of content needs to be done to supplement and in-depth, we do not consider officially published. Continue to be part of the interview is now published out of Readers for reference purposes only. Xiao-Fen Xie Shouwen and a sense of finishing the draft for the amount of time and effort:)
on the original family, friends more familiar to psychology, the definition of this concept may also have to understand. but for the ordinary reader, to mention to the original family, may also feel some strange, original family really mean what?
Hu: family of origin refers to the combination of father and mother into, based on the presence of each of us. original parents and family relationship between the children get along inside, there are many mysteries in the cause and effect. because the West has a psychologist, is the promoter mm EQ Daniel. Goleman (Daniel Goleman) [Note 1] mm he had a word, that in human history, for the causality of parent-child relationship is most clearly Freud. In other words, the master of psychology Sigmund Freud developed the psychoanalytic school, which is actually a very detailed description of his father , between mother and child psychological crux of a very wonderful points, including the so-called Electra complex, Oedipus complex. are buried deep in everyone's heart with this experience of the opposite sex, it is worth exploring. such as Most girls have Electra complex, and so she grew to adulthood and met her partner, often would be the projection of childhood to your partner Electra complex. So, as with an Electra complex with which to mother's opposition, and so was among the girls with her mother, usually have a very esoteric subconscious competition. I remember when I was young, really felt like the father and daughter as the little Valentine. in such a fashion in China say, right?
Yes, and the feelings between father and daughter seemed deeper.
Hu: particularly deep. because most couples have some homework between the fact to learn, that is, Buddhism is often talk about sentence: It is not karmic creditors will not take care of in together.
Minato in together, there will be a lot of habits to personality transformation. character of the model must be in-depth insight to the two adjust the relationship between individuals. so they get along with the process, there are already some problems. When the child is born out, the parents, especially the relationship between father and daughter so well, that the mother will feel as if she could not tell her Mr produce as close a natural, comfortable kind of interaction, there is a will there is a quiet envy for her daughter. These things are bit by bit a child in foster children, and as a child may feel the activities of an unconscious inside.
it is an unconscious activity, that child may be feeling, but he / she does not clearly aware of.
Hu: He is no way to interpretation, there is no way of , there is no way of knowing. In fact, parents have no way to fully understand their own, there are many descriptions of this psychology, including the son of the Oedipus complex, patricide complex, where the first complex. object relations psychology mm, as Klein Master [Note 2] mm raised her children at the beginning of sexual feelings and sexual desire, when will the complex between the parents with some psychological sticking point, which is that we can get to know. we were young the first heterosexual experience, in fact, our father or mother, they are our first love object. the love of the object interaction model will become a foundation for future relations between the sexes.
that such same sex, such as the daughter and between the mother might have a relationship between exclusion and confrontation.
Hu: Yes. my personal experience, this exclusive relationship, I was a kid is very sensitive and can realize. I do not understand why the mother I have so much of the dissatisfaction, at any time with the moment you will realize that there is always her eyes with a desired correction of your criticism. child I should not make mistakes all the time, but the outpouring of the mother do not accept that the mentality has become almost a spiritual tone to her. This caused me to doubt that he is not the biological mother, and will have a deep, deep without being loved, is not enough recognition of care and The lack of a sense of inclusiveness. The lack of a sense of gender relations in future I will cause the above said mm mm like psychology have addictive tendencies, because our hearts are not filling a pothole.
In fact, each When young people are very successful, each child who has a big ego. but in such a process is treated improperly, the holes can cause psychological. This may be brought inside the pit is not sense of security, lack of a sense of inferiority, self-denial tendencies, low esteem, or self-growth practices in a lack of capacity above, must take a very long time to confirm their value. Even with a high achievement, but still feel not good enough. like the kind of mentality, almost all the time with their parents in a small very delicate interaction between the formation of these slowly.
from the original family that the psychological holes. sounds particularly heavy!
Hu: I translated In his experience of these potholes in the world. In fact, these holes which all of the negative emotional energy is not existential, nor is it never changes, it is not a constant character. But because these holes are not complement, we always felt in my heart there are some scarce. medical research in accordance with bio-energy, the mood of these holes, in fact, all the pent-up emotion in our veins inside seven rounds.
in the vein of seven?
Hu : The human body has a central meridian, in the vein of the western world [4] study was very thorough, almost all of both biomedical and information related to medical research on the clock. Our thoughts and Eastern Buddhism Buddhist practice, research odd The Ba Mai's more like're putting the class. but to explore the top seven in the vein, the yoga system and the system is relatively more hidden secret. So, the western world seems to be the secret of yoga and the relatively large reservoir. These scientists, including psychologists, they are in fact slowly into the exploration of energy medicine. They found almost all of these early emotional stagnation in the veins of our seven rounds, especially the following three rounds, that is, round sea [5], umbilical round [Note 6] and those parts of the solar plexus. undersea round of the perineum in our area, the navel cord round the next site. solar plexus than in our navel, including the liver, spleen and stomach, ten duodenum together the energy of this center.
feel that many of the adults living in the upper abdomen was bored, chest, abdomen, there seems to have a sense of stagnation. that there is no way to breathe down to the pubic region, upper and lower energy barrier, You do not have a sense of joy, full of life among the anxiety. in fact it related to our early experience in the original family, since the are suppressed, suppressed down a lot of negative energy.
the negative energy of the In the following three rounds were accumulated?
Hu: Yes, this wheel is very abstract. If you do not enter into the awareness of Qimai, there is no way to understand and realize that even the physical card to the existence of these chakras. Most people do not know the energy of the body so esoteric center, when we increase the energy of activation to a level or when, or the awakening of our innate potential, these chakras will be in the inside turn. So these chakras to be very active, to be able to rotate, and the vibration frequency of the body to be very relaxed, very active, this person will have a sense of joy. If you are still the vibration of the body, chakras choke, and then there will be a deep inexplicable the depressed feeling, such as making a lot of money, work accomplished, or the envy of everyone with a lot of conditions, but there is still no positive feeling of life.
this problem with the original family relationship with any specific ?
Hu: are closely related, are coming in bit by bit impart some information, including ideas, information and belief the information systems, ideologies, values of information. this information through the neural pathways in our bodies material instilled come. instil the information will come in after the body in the meridians, chakras stuck inside the body.
instance, like my personal experience is that I do not come with the mother at, but I do not agree with this family, do not agree with my childhood growing settlements, the environment, most of the older person's life, beliefs and values. because they almost have a lot of criticism and self-centered tendencies, an authoritative character. is to deny others the ability, talent or cognitive, and only thing he is right, only his all, whether it is ideas, concepts, arguments, actions, and even his style is the world's most accurate. In fact, the [Note 7] is a lot of very important people. In my youth, when there are legislators around the settlement, National Assembly, Attorney, member of Taiwan's environment, which are considered the elite of the early molecules and the so-called privileged class. These people have a lot of conditions, but you do not think they mind is open, do not think they can treat others equally, so I do not agree with this family background.
When a person does not agree with family background when, according to biomedical view of the sea round you, that is the foundation of your existence, likely to have some negative information. there have been some negative message to the energy of the sea round lock, lock will then affect our two legs, while psychological characteristics of the above, can also cause a sense of realism is not enough or not enough capacity to cope with reality, including the concept of money to do things confused sense of reality or not. Jufan how the sale of housing in relation to the matter, or how to deal with the work of the matter, or the implementation of all the things that they will have a tendency to muddle. Such people often go on to the spiritual level of thinking and to develop, and that his head would be developed, his leg is very weak. If Taoist Zhan Zhuang exercises to do, there are some people who blocked the legs of energy meridians, and he stood near future, will be shaking. When walking, they also feel is not very stable, if not the power of two legs. This is related to the energy center , and the kind of original family, or between parent and child agree that the concept of the ancestral heritage and insufficient related. This is a medicine and energy medicine information deep inside a mystery.
to hear that lecture, some questions have a clear insight feeling.
Hu: But how do we focus? If our early formation of such a state of mind when, then we grow up into the early to how the issue has been planted. In psychology, also talk about Prior to decide their fate can not cry, do not to have anger expression, not angry. In fact, the performance of every child in the impulses of desire this time, are very natural. The original desire to have a moderate expression should be pipeline. But if parents suppress it, so pay attention to the rules, then the child will be in three years before the original desire, the original emotion, the expression of desire, instinctive desire to survive, including the desire to diet, or eat and drink all Lazard have suppressed the desire to live, not appropriate to express the future will cause some problems. The children in sexual desire, and in fact, is an early show time. According to the scientists now in the womb, the embryo in fact, already begun sexual respond. the child at an early stage, there will be exploration of his sexual organs, while the Chinese parents on the matter that is the nature of evil, will go to suppress his exploration.
is very taboo.
Hu: Very taboo, as if there is no way to get it on the table and talk, it is not able to teach children. In fact, there are very many people are early sexual repression, or the improper attitude towards sex, and cause the following two pulse round of the block. because the second round of the energy hub is the navel, pubic region of the site, it in fact with our instinct, survival instinct, and the use of willpower, but also a concept of money because money is always mm linked with the survival instinct mm related. this energy center block, then not only the surrounding organs, including colon, ovary, uterus will be subject to a number of affected, but also the formation of emotional stagnation, over time it will become tumors of these organs or chronic symptoms. In addition, the above can also cause suppression of willpower.
This is also the creative energy center, you see the interaction between people, the outpouring of emotion and some people particularly comfortable, there is the very rules, a little depressed, passive that to someone else drive his emotional interactions. Some people are completely no way to emotional interaction, the interaction is purely rational thinking. Some people are of a purely routine care, in addition to office things, to solve the problem of work to achieve work tasks, other times he does not know how to communicate with people emotions. This is the early stagnation of energy to show a kind of personality.
is with parents parenting methods are related.
Hu: Yes.
you just mentioned the question on sexual development, in fact, I think, during the Cultural Revolution, the parents in the context of that environment, such as from the dress, we to be able to see, it seems obvious boundaries between men and women. clothes color is gray, the site of female characteristics, it is still subject to some repression. I remember my mother when my puberty, such as when the breasts began to emerge time, or even feel very surprised, said that the children how to grow up so early, so bought the corset is very tight.
Hu: This is very bad, because this part of the energy center of the chest is on behalf of a person a tolerance, as well as the ability to love. In fact, a large chest, a woman, you look closely, she is usually stronger than the ability to love some. relatively poor development of the female breast, she may partial rational, thinking side, but her passion (passion) inadequate. This is because the heart and lung function would be an oppression. Each energy center is near the relevant organs in charge of it. This uniform technology, all of standardization, not to have bright colors or can not have a very bold reveal, these are some of the problems we Oriental Society. In fact, the East has a lot of countries have this problem. you look at Western society, in this respect is more free, so you will find that their creativity is high. their creativity, imagination, and even the outpouring of enthusiasm, vitality and energy of life is not as related to the Eastern world. It is with the original family education-related.
I have interviewed one to Harvard University Ph.D. Anthropology. He was there after school, come back to do a kindergarten. He said, go there to study, feel compared with the local students, that gap is not learning through the hard work to be remedied. Some ideas and ideas, they are naturally flowed, but he is not. He deeply felt the fall, so he came back to do a kindergarten.
Hu: This is the mystery of human potential development. In the Western world of the body spiritual medicine experts, many of them through the publication of many works. because I specialize in publishing consultant, so I read so many things, particularly in relation to the development potential of the chakras. This imagination, thinking capacity, the entire brain system a source of inspiration, in fact, told us in the vein of seven closely related to smooth or not. hub you have to slow activation of the seven energy, and opened, down from a higher dimension of inspiration (inspiration ), and inspired, will produce. You see there are a number of painters, he painted the like into the sublimation, almost without thinking, do not go thinking that there is a continuous supply of direct creative energy constantly out. that you will find these people They are capricious in their daily lives inside, and if we are law-abiding, according to the education point of view, then, Picasso is absolutely capricious, Daly is definitely a lunatic. but their creativity is incredible, the energy center because they do not plug.
Yes, such a genius does quite a few buses. There are Van Gogh, but also feel that way.
Hu: Van Gogh and of course a special number, he was a little manic depression and bipolar disorder tendency, in fact, part of his depression is more and more. When he entered the manic, he would suddenly come out of creativity, which is known as any connection between the serum, which is very deep due to causality. But to the native families, then, inappropriate discipline, the suppression of desire, make the following three important and creativity, or with the original energy of the chakra of blocked, then our creative potential will be hindered.
On the front of your family on the original topic, are very deep impact. As a general reader, it may indeed sound a bit abstract, but it also opens a window, that is, how better to awareness of their body, or to a life of growth.
Hu: Yes. purpose is to help parents who understand that their little bit of every word, every thought, every act, in fact is a very fine, but with a profound influence on information and belief. these things in small children when, in fact, will instill in each moment comes, and then the entire physical and mental development of the child, even his Qimai meridian and chakra have a huge impact.
in your autobiography, with his family background is also very relevant, the mother died earlier time, and then there are some depend on others. So, like the mother died early, do not care, what is the effect on children?
Hu : My grandmother on my one year old when his father, to suffer the village at the time the person inside, those relatives and misunderstanding. her character is very staunch, committed suicide by swallowing opium. The next year, my grandfather also have passed away. My father was carrying him to his sister with him, a young age, a depressive character. He grew up in his uncle's home, grew up living off others, which caused his emotional do not know how to tell human interaction, there is a stagnation of mind. He has not released a lot of deep sadness, then he probably would have a lung disease more than 20 years of age. We speak in Chinese Medicine is sad lung injury, so his entire body with these issues. He into the relations between the sexes, my mother did not know his background of this growth, the impact of what this character. She can only interact with her just this man's situation to understand each other. She felt why the people do not talk, how such a cold , so no sense of how, no way to communicate any enthusiasm. Although the beginning of gender relations at that time the attraction is the enthusiasm, because it has an instinctive need. sexual needs and desire to want to join, make two Personal temporarily open, but when two people live together, to become husband and wife, become a reality leading a poor relationship Youyanjiangcu tea, the enthusiasm will diminish. decline after that everyone with a long history of life on their own in the heart of these emotional wounds and all the holes to get along with each other, but there is no other way to knowledge through a universal understanding of each other.
because of the lack of psychological knowledge of Chinese society, especially our parents generation , so that blame is resentment. my mother, my father has very big hate, I feel my father is a deliberate abuse of her, not only does not give her a warm feeling, but also in the nature of the relationship above the cold her. In fact, I her father is not a deliberate abuse. In fact, my father and potholes with a trauma, a mother looking to find a woman to love him, to take care of him indefinitely to meet the needs of his mother as a role. But my mother is just not like that one. My mother is a relatively heavy sense of reality, she married a Mr. think I should be leading a poor two people together to solve the problem Youyanjiangcu tea money. For my father's emotional needs My mother is ignored. Both sides ignore each other's needs, are not given the kind of treatment you want to approach each other, so how can two people can not run three days a argument with two days a little noisy, a meeting a lot of problems on.
fact your mother but also with their own holes, she also has her original family.
Hu: It is also good, and her original family is also very hard. because of her father is a county, then married two rooms wife, my grandmother was Tian Fang, Tian Fang great wife and two rooms have a baby, each have their own relatives. in my grandfather passed away, two rooms start hostilities, war real estate, competition heritage. my mother 14 years old have to help my grandmother to court, write accusation. the kind of real money, awareness and a sense of crisis is so small from the beginning to develop the.
any pair of men and women together together, must be more or less have some understanding of psychology. In other words, we must go to understand each other's growth history, and his family of origin issues, to solve the interaction between the unconscious at the bottom of the sexes as a mechanized inertial mode of operation. These habitual patterns are difficult to detect. Why should we emphasize the importance of spiritual education, or treatment of body, soul, important because it is a fundamental understanding of life education and life. Without these scientific cognition, we really difficult to deal with relations between the sexes, it is difficult to construct a perfect family to our next generation.
right. you are not perfect in this growing family of origin, grew up, whether it is In your book, or process in a number of lectures, you mention a phenomenon that my father off in a huff when the mother of a man smoking a cigarette in the room, pacing back and forth. that you come for the young said, is not felt as if the day should fall down? This is a child's psychology is a great influence it has?
Hu: Absolutely, especially for the particularly high sensitivity to the child. the child sensitivity Although high, but he do not understand why her mother so depressed, how kind of atmosphere so thick, that what is very, very serious sense of big things to happen. Then mother would often vent their anger at the child unconscious body. She not intentional, but said that no one around to let her vent, only next to the child. She took a mind of their own dissatisfaction with life, projected onto the child, to correct you, to transform you to control your , continue to produce the kind of criticism and negation. this child is concerned, is really too big a negative suggests that it takes a long time to restore confidence, find their own sense of the value of life.
This is an adult in your later, or after the age of 36 to be exact?
Hu: starting from my early thirties, I realized that the call of his life. This call is different from my mother gave me the boot. according to a metaphysical, Jungian depth psychological point of view of astrology, hit 29-year-old is a very important turning point in life. Sanshierli Confucius say, the concept of turning point with the 29-year-old quite similar. In 29 years, we almost always important relationship by people around the edification and impact, we will follow their wishes to develop their own. But after 29 years of age, 30 years old, the call of our hearts will become clear, they begin to have their own direction clear positioning. I'm almost that is at that time, began to realize that I should not go to the performing arts in this direction, I should belong to a more intrinsic scientific, internal evidence, psychological or physical and spiritual direction to go explore a whole. At that time I was determined to make efforts towards this direction was.
that is, brought about by the original family psychological shadow, eventually to achieve through their own repair a relief.
Hu: absolutely can. self-exploration, to listen to inner voice, and then go to early education to understand the personality caused by constraints, and in the end you what a mental model. For example, some mental model is In fact, I see a lot of men have this problem. Men may carry more parental expectations, they can only succeed, especially in the cause of the so-called hard work, must be able to succeed, there is a personal achievement. When he to focus on the achievement of life above, he in fact must be through a lot of willpower to suppress the spontaneous outpouring of emotions and feelings. Over time, the formation of this matter only to work, only more concerned about solving problems and doing things. That other negative emotions that are part of the join key is not his life. So most of them will be after entering the intimate relationship with the object does not know how to get along. he would have closed, do not know how to communicate, do not know reveal how love this problem. These problems will cause the suffering of women.
In fact, many women are facing this problem, but this time you have to understand, must be the original of his family caused his closure, and the emotional nature of the armed. Then how do we put a layer of layers of armor to go untie, to discharge to get rid of it, this is a incredible repair, is also very huge project. This is between the sexes all have to learn.
many parents have such a situation, is to bring the child to her grandmother, or grandmother with child rearing in the process of being with their biological parents did not have much direct contact. such care way what is the impact for children?
Hu: Taiwan this is also common. parents busy, put the kids to the maid, the more commission, the Thai domestic helper, to the servants raised. I daughter, too. My secretary is a nurse, I sometimes busy, she was on behalf of motherhood. I think not to say necessarily have parents to raise children, it is important around the nurturers, and she did not itself love, there is no awareness, she can not realize what he said out of every word, every act, every idea of the impact of the child is. There is her own physical and mental health can be to what extent, For example, when she was caring for the child, focusing on where.
my secretary take care of the child, her focus is very correct. because she is a very health-conscious person, so she will definitely make a child's bowel movements per day, diet, rest, exercise, is not happy, the physical and mental health as the most important. so that even children of single parent families, and she is very happy, very healthy personality. The reason is that people who took her around in a very correct rearing attitude towards her. and we do not give her too much pressure on homework, she do not have to test how well, just put your homework maintain a basic standard. We note that she loves sports and exercise, will encouraged her, and even the above will not be too limited in her playing.
in the expression of desire, including her emotional expression of feelings, or her own doubts to explore a variety of life, you're going to explore her rational, rather than do not understand what her child as. You have the ability to set her friends received a similar reason as discussed. so you can help her build an ability to think independently, and the feeling of being respected. I When your not in a small gain this part, the mother did not give me the respect and recognition.
to think that's it?
Hu: independent thinking is not bad. my mother past writing, she is brain people who have ideas, but also insight. She inspired me in terms of ideology, and these aspects of human observation, it touches gave me a pretty good basic education. When I was very young, she told me about Lu Xun's how good ideas. She has socialist ideas at that time, when women in Taiwan is not so much, I pretty early by the great influence on her.
this is your talent she inherited.
Hu: Yes. for pity in the outlook, I have one more independent space, giving enough.
as parents can give children the best gift, probably some of it.
Hu: I think the best gift, the first is to attach importance to the healthy rest of her life, to develop a good self-health and self-care habits. we were young, eating no idea what is healthy and what unhealthy things are confused. my mother's view is that there is mold in the food it does not matter, there penicillin [Note 8] eat can bring antibiotics. She is not the concept of health, what kind of food is sufficient nutrients, and she has not the concept of food done very oil. For example, she likes chicken soup, a layer of oil floating on top, you have to eat her. I could not eat, but also forced me to eat. sometimes put a couple of days of food, that food has absolutely no energy, leaving a bean, two bean sprouts, but also to have it eaten. rest above the self-rule, there are the basic habits of exercise, how to take care of their own habits, basically no training well. even in the medical concept is wrong. a child was taken away to fight a cold cure of the vaccination, so the blood are ruining. because a lot of antibiotics into the body after , there is no way the body's immune system to play its full function. I think this is the most important foundation.
Why do I say? because I schools by the parents of my daughter has learned several children there are early onset of alopecia, is the head on a face, swollen and began some of the reactions to antibiotics. This fact will cause the body some of the pollution of toxic chemicals, in fact, also caused damage on the meridian. Those parents are not the concept of natural therapy, the child will be healthy this continues to be destroyed. We also found that some parents, they asked the children have to test a hundred points, but not on the large four children, they feel that this is not important. This idea is completely wrong, many parents need to wake up in this area . This is a healthy level.
Second, the psychological level, we give the kids a lot of encouragement, support, respect, like friends and they like to explore and rational sharing, and then as soon as possible to help them understand their own potential where life can be in which direction to develop, earlier call to find his own life. It is also very important. Every child has the innate talent to bring, that part must be early to find and nurture, to help him go .
Again, the spiritual good foundation should be laid as soon as possible. the so-called spiritual basis, in fact, is the ability of self-awareness, insight into the desires and thoughts of an ability. In other words, thoughts and desire should not be holding nose, have the ability to test my every desire, every thought of the bottom, to promote the idea of these desires and what the internal drive, it will not be the anonymous inner drive and desire led by the nose, change no way to call the shots into a man. because these desires are in fact most people from the collective consciousness desire without hesitation, to everyone within the heart of the inside, passing through the family and parents, after it becomes their own unconscious restricted. this section must have insight into the ability to help children early, because this is the development of intelligence is very important.
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Lee Wai-kwong, are flourishing in China and tax cuts on previous

 Li Wei Guang: China and the tax cuts were related to previous
Spirit in Chinese history, the Governance News: June just past, agencies, experts have predicted June CPI trend that will fall to between 7.1 to 7.5 percent, but they also are likely to have predicted a rebound in the second half. In the face of inflation, Europe and America usually through tax rebates or direct tax policy (such as the U.S. tax rebate this year to $ 1,200 per family), to ease the pressure on people's lives, the Chinese Government to implement a similar policy?
Li Wei light: not only can and should. this year China's economic growth has slowed the trend appeared, if the policy adjustment is not good, a sharp decline in the possibility exists. In fact, last June after the decline in GDP, there are signs, but there are no special attention to it. It performance, that is, the rate of industrial production and investment declined. Since the first quarter of this year, this trend more obvious point. Also in the trade, exports to the U.S. this year was actually the first two months of zero growth, this also shows that the economic downturn has continued with some sex.
investment and exports has been China's economic growth this year, the two demand factors, and now these two are on the decline, there is clearly a crisis in our economy, those . only tax cuts or rebates, only to bring new businesses and the vitality of the family, encouraging domestic demand. Should the tax reduction or refund of tax that there is a relationship between economic growth and awareness of the problem.
Southern Metropolis Daily : What understanding of the problem?
Lee Wai-kwong: For decades, the supply of schools of thought on the impact of the world economy has been strong ever. supply-side against the market economy. In their view, the supply will automatically create demand, so increasing supply is more important than creating demand. for the government, in reality, there is always able to bring the same benefits (tax) rates of two completely different: When the tax rate below a certain level, will stimulate the enthusiasm of economic activity, social supply is increased, the government increase tax revenue in the same direction; when rates higher than a certain level, will lead to contraction of economic activity, social supply Therefore, the amount of decline, the result is a steady decline in government revenue will be.
supply-siders claim that the Government more tax revenue is not the best way to raise taxes, on the contrary, but the tax cuts. tax, social economy will be prosperous; tax, social supply will increase; tax cuts, government revenue will not only not declined, but will improve.
the United States since the Reagan era, the eighties to actively pursue the supply-side ideas. later appeared a world-wide tax campaign, after dozens of countries, including the original part of the Soviet Union and Eastern Europe and some countries have introduced tax cuts and programs, and even famous for high taxes reduce the income tax in France also announced and the standard rate of VAT. President Bush just took office less than 20 days to propose to Congress a huge tax cut 1.6 trillion tax cut plan mm10 years, although Congress later reduced to 1.35 trillion, but the amount of tax cuts is still amazing. This is the United States, Ronald Reagan 80 years later, President Clinton's two massive tax cuts to continue.
in Chinese history, the also confirms this truth. such as the Tang Dynasty, before the said that China previous whether the strength of tax cuts?
Li Wei light: is entirely the conditions and strength, this is not has been showing explosive growth. has grown from 1 trillion increase in 1999 to 5 trillion in 2007, but that was not all extra-budgetary, institutional income. According to scholars Zhou Tianyong calculations, China's fiscal revenue last year, 51,300 billion. but in fact China last year about 4.8 trillion of tax revenue, revenue from land sales 1.2 trillion, 1.6 trillion penalty fee, plus the lottery income, social security funds and tobacco tax, a total of about 9 trillion . In other words, about 3.9 trillion yuan last year, revenue did not enter the government submitted to the National People's Congress budgeted.
compared with the previous year, last year more than 31% revenue growth, and with this corresponds to the China's GDP growth last year, less than 10% points, per capita disposable income of urban residents increased by 12.2%, while the disposable income of rural residents increased by 9.5%, much higher than the increase in fiscal revenue and GDP per capita disposable income growth.
In the first four months, revenue has declined year on year in April an increase of 17% per month increase in recent years in more than 20%. I thought revenue trend will be a little inhibited, may seem the problem is not that simple. May rose as high as 52.6%, it is slow, revenue decline should also be synchronized and can not come backwards. from a few months, this year's revenue is still rapidly increasing, this should be a developed countries, China's macro tax burden exceeded
Southern Metropolis Daily: Despite the central government revenue in recent years has been This said, the media and civil society scholars have been widely contested, was that people do not respect the intelligence and feelings.
Lee Wai-kwong: There are basically three kinds of macro tax burden statistical standards. tax revenue in GDP, is a tax burden; fiscal revenue in GDP, is China's macro tax burden is about 20%, and certainly not very high. But China's financial system, determine that this statistic is questionable. Government's fiscal revenue, net of tax, there is an almost keep pace with its revenue Group: budget, fees, extra income, institutional income. these were all added up with the GDP compared to the real fees, fines, and levies, as well as business costs have included bribery of officials, it is not clear how much say. All this, officials have been intentionally or unintentionally ignored.
if the budget income, income statistics go outside the system, China's macro tax burden has reached about 35%, even higher than in developed countries 5 percent In 2002, the then State Administration of Taxation, the author pointed out that Mr. Jin Renqing , the ratio of government revenue: central budget tax revenue-GDP ratio of 15%, at all levels of government departments and regulatory fees and charges accounted for 10% of GDP ratio, a variety of systems is the ratio of fees and charges accounted for 10% of GDP, China's macro tax burden of large diameter 35% level (Jin even higher, more than 36%, which is close to the planned economy era of reform and opening up a level.
Southern Metropolis Daily: For the fiscal revenue, the central government in recent years, logic seems to be better, more total , the faster growth of the central government greater ability to regulate the economy, the stronger the ability to transfer payments, social security and can be used in the more money on welfare, many people seem to have accepted this logic.
Lee Wai-kwong : This is the Chinese system and culture. China since ancient times has been a centralized system, in culture, the Chinese have had to have a backbone, a strong central government as a psychological dependence, and pay attention to the modern market economy separation of powers, called for the establishment of civil society, but also to civil society activity. this was all Chinese culture, traditions lack.
China is to establish a market economy, which only requires the market order, it also requires a vibrant civil society. From The beginning of the snowstorm and earthquake can see that, the non-self, the ability to save a total of rather weak. in the event of major natural disasters, we just wait out the policies the central government to take measures to rescue, while local and people's own self, a total saving of the resources are scarce. This is a resource too concentrated, the local lack of autonomy, lack of energy, powers and financial authority does not match the performance.
surgery now on the fiscal and taxation system of the southern city
News: Indeed, although the Chinese economy under the guidance of the rapid development of the Government, but in this process, we also see a virtual monopoly of all resources, all-powerful central government, which also is closely related to China's current taxation system.
Li Wei light: in 1994 the implementation of the tax system, results should be affirmed, but there are problems, its biggest drawbacks is the financial power concentrated in the central, to ensure political totalitarian system, and a lot of powers are left in place. the tax system does not change the central and local powers division pattern, the local government to use 45% of fiscal revenue relative to revenue, about 75% support for the relative expenditure responsibilities. and the tax system before the reform, local government is close to 80% of revenue supporting less than 60% of financial expenditure responsibilities. tax distribution, the local financial shortage, but to their own devices, which appeared in recent years, Government of such a situation can only open eyes closed eyes, as most revenues are to make it take it out.
financial consequences of land caused by financial order disorder, that the central government now has to implement property tax difficult. do not want to levy such local taxes, as it may lead to local house prices fall, reducing its revenue. to the end of the six provinces of Central has worked with idling real property tax issues, without a successful outcome, this is the performance issues.
the central government to rope in his hand a lot of financial resources, the base is too large, with up to become a problem, so a hand in hand is the the.
the central government of collecting about 30% of the funds will be returned to the place through transfer payments, but the last bit of the process, is difficult to ensure fair and equitable tax distribution process. the local circumstances vary, the central government can not to completely and accurately grasp the detailed local information, transfer payments will be difficult to achieve good results, but also provide space for corruption, which shows over-centralized system is not necessarily a good system.
should said that now operate on fiscal and taxation system of the time, Premier Wen also said in March the next five years he would finance reform in an important position. but unfortunately, at least so far, have not seen the government substantive reform of the financial system signs.
Southern Metropolis Daily: one is the high tax burden, the Government's fiscal revenue soared, the other is the welfare of the people to enjoy lower structure of central government expenditure in recent years, controversy also relatively large.
Lee Wai-kwong: If the high taxes, while the implementation of high welfare, of course, is that Western countries do, but in China is not. According to scholars in 2003, China's official party and government spending, if the increase All expenditure on the fiscal budget, which accounts for 37% of government revenue in 2007, conservatively estimated at about 30%. the Western developed countries, the highest administrative official expenditures, but 15% of the United States has the lowest number in Japan, only 2% a little bit.
soaring revenues at the same time, a super, unlimited government also established. taxed more, the more expansive government, government expansion, they need more resources to support more large-scale tax economic vitality of the private sector will be squeezed even more, this is a vicious cycle. this cycle has been haunted history of China since ancient times, have not yet found a power to restrain the endless expansion of government.
the same time, the Chinese government revenue used in the improvement of the national benefits are also far from enough. This year two sessions, the delegates to the 2008 vote against the annual budget of more than 300, 100 abstentions sheets, combined ratio is not a low figure . This situation has never occurred before. This shows that some voices in recent years the Government's budget policy is satisfied. Of course it should be noted that in recent years the central government spent on education, health care, the proportion of social security increased year by year, working to build income, fees and charges have not included, nor submitted to the National People's Congress considered how to use can not tell. This situation can not continue to.
Southern Metropolis Daily: Yes, this monitoring role of the NPC should be further sclerosis. We know that although the central government's budget submitted to the NPC examined and approved each year, but only take one form. actually submitted to the NPC before they are considered the implementation of the Government's budget has a quarter of a.
Lee Wai-kwong: modern tax system design concept, which the tax levy, tax level is high, these are by the legislature to authorize the Government. Unfortunately, the Constitution does not explicitly People's Congress the exclusive right of the tax legislation. Since the Constitution omission of the right to tax to the government Investment Enterprises and Foreign Enterprises Income Tax Law lower levels of government departments, the executive has become the main elements of the provisions of the tax, which is surely the constitutional principles of modern taxation contrary.
1984 年 business tax reform, the State Department had authorized the National People's Congress request Posted trial on tax regulations (draft) motion to get the Sixth National People's Congress authorized the tenth meeting. Although the enabling legislation is not yet meet the strict sense of the constitutional principle of taxation, but that is a historical progress . but unfortunately, since then, the process of enabling legislation actually stopped, the government of a tax almost unchecked power. years after the major 1994 tax reform, the State Council formulated a series of provisional tax provisions, there is no legislative basis for requirements.
If necessary, the Government would like to how much tax can be imposed, without any restriction and monitoring of the link. This evolved into the result: the Government's annual budget is to get the NPC to approve the Government decision which taxes and tax rates do not require approval, just out of the NPC, regardless of progress, has become a , into a huge upgrading of enterprises to gain time
Southern Metropolis Daily: If the tax rebate or tax policy, tax structure, what specific adjustments can be made?
Lee Wai-kwong: I now the tax reform proposals is to emphasis the tax system structure. such as vigorously and quickly advance to the personal income tax from the consolidated tax classification of the transition has been difficult to tax evasion, but at the same time strengthening the property tax to reduce production and circulation revenue. In addition, you can consider a windfall profits tax on the monopoly industries, specifically used to improve national welfare.
For businesses, several categories of taxes have a need for reform. such as value-added tax, purchase of fixed assets should pay taxes, which in fact mean it does not encourage people business. in the world, very few to implement VAT production, but China is one. is still engaged in the pilot transition have been completely unnecessary, and should be immediately spread across the country. This year in particular earthquake, many factories have collapsed, many companies have to purchase fixed assets, many companies are stepping up production of the country material support to the disaster area, which is the value-added tax reform pushed to Sichuan, the opportunity to push across the country. The other is the tax structure should be further tax reforms, such as for small businesses and individual businesses in the factors.
the burden of corporate income tax is too heavy. merge the two laws, the tax burden to some extent solved the problem inside and outside the fair, but the rate is still high, the added value last year, corporate income tax rate of 39%, the proportion of total tax revenue even higher than the U.S.. In the past the low level of collection, increase the cost by way of corporate income tax evasion is easier to do, and now more and more difficult for tax evasion, tax burden, of course greatly increased. Therefore, reform of corporate income tax should also continue to further reduce corporate tax burden. Moreover, Chinese companies are also very heavy burden of social security. According to statistics, China's share of corporate pension funds up to pay health care to 40%. in the future as efforts to increase the protection of labor, wages increase, social security contributions of enterprises will increase, the burden will be heavier.
addition to reducing tax rates, the readjustment of irrational tax structure, simplify the collection and management tools to reduce the variety of non-standard non-tax revenue, also has a tax effect.
personal income tax also need to make further adjustments, should further improve the tax standards. inflation so that every family is spending a few hundred dollars more than the daily fee, which is a relatively wealthy family does not pose a threat, but the largest proportion of the population in the lower income earners have it?
a tax principle of taxation: First, you can not sign and maintain their own basic needs of citizens of the expenditure part; second, does not affect citizens of all walks of life together to enjoy the fruits of economic and social development; Third, the government can not just their own increase revenue and set the imbalance of society regardless of income level. Obviously, such a measure, our current tax policy is a harmony and stability, in fact contrary to the purpose of personal income tax.
Unfortunately, the standard levy a tax of 800 yuan to 1,600 yuan from 2,000 yuan and then, how these standards are established, are not clear announcement is neither Taking into account the country's income and cost of living differences across the board, not imposed by the family. exempt from the standard amount of a tax reform is the most simple question, but in China has become very complex, confusing.
South City News: In the current macroeconomic situation, if the tax cuts and tax rebates will be What are the benefits?
Li Wei light: a lot of disposable income of the government, sometimes not promote, stimulate economic growth, but inhibit the consumption. This China's rapid economic growth can not tell when. And once the economy slowdown, which may be two or three years China is likely to occur, the shortcomings of China's tax burden is too heavy will be exposed. high taxes, low welfare is actually a national wealth unfair distribution.
the Chinese economy, in order to maintain a healthy and rapid development of enterprises, especially the most important development of private enterprises. Only Chinese private enterprises to grow stronger, the Chinese can talk about really strong. This year, inflation control in China The main control means is a tightening of monetary policy and price controls. that such a sweeping monetary tightening, credit tightening and yuan appreciation, energy and raw material prices, rising labor costs together with private enterprises is increasing, especially in the manufacturing sector difficulties. This time, private enterprises will be reduced or refunded in the industrial upgrading and adjustment of gain time and space.
strive to build China into a constitutional framework of a light-duty National
Southern Metropolis Daily: In fact, the tax system in China structure, the actual collection object is in the low-income people, while the high-income groups and monopoly industries, the lack of effective control, this is often criticized.
Lee Wai-kwong: access to financial income tax system now features the most prominent, but regulation of the social role of the wealth gap is almost zero. otherwise the Chinese community would not be so overcharging like that performance, but on how to reflect inadequate attention to the fairness of the tax system. This income tax principles and contrary to the fundamental principle of capacity to pay.
maximum personal income tax issues. China has been divided into classes by personal income , respectively, the classification of income tax system, it is only conducive to the tax authorities collect taxes, not much to adjust income distribution function. today's world where the introduction of a tax countries, mostly the implementation of comprehensive income tax system, or a combination of category and comprehensive mixed income tax system, we are still holding tightly tax classification is clearly inappropriate. even though China was a hybrid income tax system to determine the direction of reform, but too slow, now just a little concession raised the standard.
from the whole tax structure, low proportion of direct taxes, particularly the proportion of income from low income class, will also affect the effect of the tax system fair play. Although the in the direction of, but not enough. from the whole tax system point of view, an unfair tax burden remains a serious problem. If the excessive tax incentives, the implementation of two sets of urban and rural tax system, tax rates, tax benefits and costs of the standard deduction different, leading to different regions, the tax burden on enterprises of different ownership are quite different, incompatible with the principle of national treatment, is not conducive to fair competition among enterprises.
Southern Metropolis: a practical dimension is introduced in China based indirect tax system is one big problem is that taxes can be passed on the final consumers. The current Chinese government is committed to strengthening the collection of direct taxes, indirect taxes and direct taxes is equal both to the direction of development, which will actually increase the taxpayer's burden? If increased, how the path of reform designed to avoid such a situation occur?
Lee Wai-kwong: Good question! current tax revenues, the proportion of indirect taxes has been stubbornly high, accounting for more than 70%. As the proportion of large so-called 19.2% of total tax revenue, an increase of 37.9% over the previous year; personal income tax accounted for 7%, an increase of 29.8%. These two taxes combined, the proportion exceeds the proportion of value-added tax 21.6%.
you ask The What are the results? people will naturally feel the pressure of heavy taxes. on the road to take, is equal to improve the proportion of income class, and ultimately reduce the total abolition of all non-normative nature of the administrative charges for the future transition to income taxes in the tax system as the main lay a good foundation.
addition to the defects mentioned above, the current China there are local tax system is imperfect, the Central tax and local tax issues such as the division is not reasonable. can be said that the current tax system need not meet the economic and social development aspect is rapidly amplified, must be reformed, and is comprehensive reform, is not shy of the money in his pocket and then pull out, it may not be happy.
Lee Wai-kwong: Government of collecting the real money, of course, do not want to reduce the funding available. tax cuts and rebates, in theory is easy, but very difficult, if implemented, mainly constrained by the existing system. It needs fundamental change and reform the system, related to the functions of government and the positioning of the NPC, the NPC comes to play in fiscal policy and tax policy on the monitoring role. In within the framework of China's current system, most likely prompted the Government to make policy change is the National People's Congress. We, academics, media people and all you taxpayers, we can do is appeal to the constitutional framework of China's early establishment of a modern tax system must strive to build China into a light tax countries. 

My silly Forrest Gump

 First saw Crimping heart like a big rock so hard for me to mature and do not know their own, or from the movie to understand more. Then, after a long time, the third time to see real meaning. Since then often see journeying of Forrest Gump, there is always a bit of Forrest Gump, stupid luck, do not care about the people around strange vision of Forrest Gump, touched countless people around the Forrest Gump, waiting for happiness, the pursuit of happiness, happiness at the same time I lost happiness Forrest Gump hh do not know how much that the words to describe my mind this stupid Forrest Gump, yes, I too love this role, he's silly really intrigues me!
If this article was written six months ago, I believe I can find a plot touched me the most, but today, I can not find the most touched me a plot, just because every picture, every plot is enough to make me sad to tears. < br> Forrest Gump's mother to allow her son and other children as a normal school, at the expense of the principals themselves and a relationship that pious;
in a child being bullied by the town was desperate to escape the time, A Gan for the first time off the leash, as if it indicates that he will get rid of all the shackles of society, as an alternative, and pure;
When he first confided to the heart of the goddess of love, when Jenny, which was then refused because she felt that Forrest Gump did not know what is love, it hurts him deeply;
Forrest Gump's first football league title for students in the intellectual than the ordinary people of the young college graduate, graduation tears of his mother on the cross-flow;
Forrest Gump to the Vietnam War, and his comrades of the friendship and the love of Jenny let him accidentally became a war hero, a glorious return, this should be the biggest of his life reward, perhaps, of society at that time a great irony;
to pursue their dreams and misguided decision to bid farewell to Jenny at the time of life, thought of Forrest Gump, Forrest Gump has been the cause at a time when successful, with a little bit of luck he became the nation's silly famous shrimp tycoon, when Jenny back to his side, the Forrest Gump for the first time tasted the taste of happiness;
But the departure of Jenny Forrest Gump once again caught in the Meditation and pain, he chose to run, keep running, seems to want to go to the end of life, looking for the answer to life, to find the true meaning of love;
Forrest Gump's mother was a great woman, she was dying the occasion to say Forrest has become most classic lines ever: Death is a part of life, are all destined to do hh Life is like a chocolate box, and one taste and unpredictable to rely on your own to hold hh;
Jenny received a letter in the future, Forrest Gump has found his heart's goddess, and he never dreamed of his son, that moment should be the most moving people, and Forrest Gump that the complex contains expressions of remorse, fear, doubt and happiness as well;
the terminally ill, married Jane Forrest Gump, when Forrest Gump finally found their own happiness, but let him even more painful is that He could lose Jennifer mm at any time of his life the only loved the exhaustion of the whole life to love a woman!
Jenny is gone, leaving a small Forrest Gump, Forrest Gump and small Forrest Gump sunset sitting side by side river fishing, that moment seems warm, but people used to look sad unlimited hh
him as , as always, with his whole life devoted to her silly man!
my stupid Forrest Gump, where are you hh

Dear remarry is not just for sex

 We loved, loved sincerely, and with living under one roof. If possible, perhaps this lifetime for the case. But when you have to be a good divorce settlement handed to me, I suddenly felt tell a thousand words have lost meaning of a sudden. I write the words silently, that is my name, that everything does not matter.
Later, a number of well-meaning people, including your girlfriend, lobbying in Around me, advised me to remarry. But, my dear, let me what to say then?
if only from the sexual life considerations, some reconciled, sensual needs to address the most realistic way. but if not the spirit love, that and the pork, beef, sheep and horses different?, of course, you are not sluts, not a snake woman intestine. broke up because I mm I never shirk off their responsibilities. a man, feed their families, is only natural Unfortunately I can not fill that role, because I got laid off. over two hundred yuan per month the tickets, food and clothing for his hard stomach.
economically disadvantaged families, perhaps as a happy family, but we are not. When Zhou Ji, I have friends and try to get me through the difficult stages of life when you start the emergency action. you keep tightening your pocket, for fear that I am more than a penny with you. In fact, I never spend money to others habits, including my friend, it is your over-cautious. Then you have everyone support each of the elderly, I just nodded, not entangled, because I know eighty years old and have no pension old mother It is the responsibility of my responsibility. and then later, you yell at the outside that you feed me. I do not rage and anger, but quietly, not moving any food you buy. But you still endlessly shouting, I even buy their own food, buy their clothing. Fortunately, the house is a two-compartment units, each can be assigned one. well developed to the surface in order to maintain the family's furnishings, but I need the existence of such a man nothing more.
when all the conditions are ripe, with an estimated consumption of many of your brain cells, and finally come out of your masterpiece. Do not worry, that the terms of the division of property, those nasty trick, the text is full of intrigue, not worth glance. My name's name is not signed at this moment though valuable mm, may be able to linger a few more personal interests. However, the time people live, have been wrangling for less, why should I care about that material to something of interest? This is you can never understand. So, when I readily accept your heart out when the grand launch of the program, you may snicker at the heart of my folly. But I will frankly laugh! my shoulder finally shook the life of those hodgepodge of worms, when life becomes a torment of a noise of a depressed, nothing can get rid of the stuff than the more pressing matter!
If I tell the truth, I tell you mm even all those who are willing to listen to me. people to be human is to strive to overcome those endless desire, longing, and create a better away the noble dream of life, one love is a dream. If, people only exist in the relationship between money, then the word Union, to waste so much passion saliva.
love a person is their own choice, even if it is the wrong choice! Yes, when a person lost enough money, will lose the love of basic qualifications. I'm an open-minded people, often said: a red book (marriage certificate), light as a feather. I often make mistakes, but I never consciously hurt others do not, this is my principle of life. I can forgive Apricot the wall of his wife, forgive Kingdom by the Sea of babes and housewives forgive care about money, but never forgive me doubly woman. because the family is the parking bays, is a social return of the sea wandering to rest. If we continue to taut nerves tired, life is too tired, too tired. you can not, and one in bed making love, is still calculating your inner female animals, the couples to live together, you can not help but think of smiling young lady who sold hh But this is in their own homes it! single means loneliness, but out of the calculation of interest at any time of trouble, the unfettered freedom of the gift of God is very fair. if only to get rid of loneliness and sexual hunger, fall back into bad dream, then I really do not mind the pig.
dear, what to say? If, with Wuhan Evening News

House, pain in my heart forever - Dragon injured Northwest Bo

 July 26, 2007, 3 million in cash was referred to the Feng Yun Patio hands of developers, and in the subscription agreement signed his name on, albeit as an agent, but With a better life for the future vision and commitment of developers, I was willing to be a Now, the mind is always simmering an fire will burn if not careful. This fire is not undetermined origin, nor is Xiehuo, but has too much anger, too much bitterness, too much frustration, too more hatred, no peace upsets the moment your heart. All this is because the house.
saying live and work, but now anyone can really achieve this? for most ordinary people, have a fixed residence, as They fought for their lives and goals, how can this goal seems far away. When racking financial, material and human resources, the target approached step by step, they thought that new life is about to begin, but who can think of, is not happy to meet their life, but the endless annoyance and anger. This is all because they met all the loopholes, and loss of conscience, .
may see here, you think I added a few adjectives before the developer, not accurate enough, even some beautify them. This I know because I write these words when the heart is extremely angry, anxious doing all it can to demonize them, to despise them, and even threw him a few ears. may ultimately this is not my solution. people still need reason, whether at any time.
intention to buy a house from the beginning to all over the streets Qukan Fang, to the final selection, to the embarrassing situation now, a full 1 year and a half. filled with running critically compared to the fatigue experience, selected after the event to a series of questions that can be called what you speechless. get the election room number from the beginning, numerous large and small trap to open his arms, waiting for you to jump into. and direct contact with you is to be addressed as do not elegant, but vulgar to the home. to lure you willingly into the trap they had been decorated, mouthful of promises ... ... in the guise before, most people have been captured, pay it!
lucky, you can own a house after this illusion of happiness; bad luck, and is looking forward to a long, long time After so hopeless, that is, to find Miss theory, however, the exact exchange for the cold face, pale, stiff, bloodless, and repeatedly passing the buck, Baibandiaonan, and I belong to that unfortunate. thought I was the only bad luck can be slowly to actually find a lot of bad friends, or more accurately should be fellows.
while undergoing a multiple catastrophe, but I could sensibly silent now, others say: put it mildly, is called rational, ugly point of call cowardice. can be a general lack of conscience in the real estate developer's environment, those of us in a weak position to buy a house what can the ordinary? perhaps too much so pessimistic, can face up to reality, we can not. had asked for a television station friends, how to resolve through legal channels? He said: will be lost! because you follow the others jump into the trap set, the agreement Ye Hao, contracts worth mentioning, you can not find reason to refute. hear, helpless. < br> to borrow a saying, the rabbit is also anxious to bite. I think I will. After all it is related to my interests, and this interest is mine, so I will fight, regardless of winning or losing, which I must Wu Qi to go out.
As for the latest progress and the final result, I'm here to tell the.
nagging over, suddenly my mind flashed a shot - Chongqing nail house holding the national flag from the roof ... ... < br> The second chapter the process so painful
contract has recently been something to worry about the house, and sometimes even want to take the knife to look for developers, theory, why not to sign the contract? Why force me to check out? Why think that I am back room? Why ... ...
questioning in a series on what basis, I also thought of a series of why. Why I Arranging, to pay 2,000 yuan deposit after the first 2 days, property consultant Cut only 300 yuan to buy a lady in the hands of that number, but need to pay a deposit of 2,000 yuan, and the receipt number can only write to the owner that bought the name, as that I had to pay 2,000 yuan, said Miss get a receipt when you can retire. though it was some concern, but I that can choose a room, selected, must pay 30,000 yuan subscription payments, and sign a subscription agreement provides a good price, total price and other terms. To think the process of the election room at the time, and now I feel helpless and ridiculous . from watching models of projects, to the selection room, and then to see an agreement, signed agreements, to pay 30,000 yuan, with less than 10 minutes. But the problem is here. I can only agreement signed by an agent, while B is still No. I bought only the owner. To this end, I negotiated with the lady no less than 10 times, saying that there are risks, I pay, agreement of others, that house in the end is this? Miss land copy of the transfer agreement, the room number is more watches and so on. In order to have their own house as soon as possible, desperation, made a compromise. everything seems to go through smoothly down, to sign a formal contract for the future are planted the seeds. < br> From the sign the agreement began, and now, I bought the house is still a pit. look at the lack of progress of the house, my heart is infinite trouble, ah, ah, finally until the opening of the. this time than the time stipulated agreement a full three months late. Even so, I was excited, after all, you can sign the contract.
At this time, I was suddenly replaced property consultant, and asked developers to reason, that is internal work adjustment. In this way, I was go? case to the problem when the money for naught, how do? one of the risk is too great.
in accordance with the relevant national legal system, not out of the ground is not allowed to sell the house, and not the ground, fundamental Banbuxialai sale permit, but I After all, from the clearance point of view, real estate is legitimate. because of the procedures there are no problems, so developers will dare to sell a fair and square.
was a bit surprised that a total of 4 residential buildings, the original first cover Building is 1,2, can be unknown reasons, 3,4 begin building cover layer now covers the way to the 6,7, Building 1, seems to have been out of the ground, and 2 building is still a pit, encountered and dealt with ground water, optical pumping to pumping more than two months. which for some time, although the pre-sale permit run down, but the 1,2 been building control, not to sell, Miss explanation is - - not out of the ground, premises of the Board not to sell! This phenomenon lasted for a long time they did not sell with a full house disappeared.
looked at the same time chose roommates room one by one to sign the contract I worried. years ago to apply for, the lady told me, and now can not handle, because they are leading happy, and that there is room down. helpless, to not go through into the first. Next, is through telephone consultation, What time can be signed. MISS will say that every time a day, you can wait a day, a lady will be in that day, so ah trailer tow, immediately seeing the New Year, I was feeling really can not say too much . desperation, again to consult the sales office and sign a contract with a number of procedures required when a cost. the answer is still available - can not handle! that, I Jiangyanuhuo out of the sales offices. < br> the next few days, that is, take the initiative to call for me Miss the found the first lady received me, after all, she was very understanding of my situation. Although the work adjustment, but she is still the same company. The two ladies are out of the same You and your room number to buy the owner is the proof of kinship, you can apply! I ask: I simply do not know the man, how can you prove? lady continued: Nongjia it! I was stunned. life I did not make fake, how could the fraud to the house? this to say how much I was not noble, but the fear of future problems, if the room number of the owner of the house when the vexatious question how do I ask for? this, I Miss flatly refused and asked to sign a contract through the normal channels. can be said Miss can not do that now.
continue to wait. waiting for the day off is not good, especially when you encounter injustice, the kind of anxious feeling you God blind alley, Shimoji nowhere. I've been wondering: How come his own pocket to buy a house so hard?
the next period of time, without any news on the house, seeing the New Year once, and I is uneasy, then again You do not worry in the future someone will find you a house divided. Finally, the lady said you can rest assured that you provide identity cards to prove that we get the other, when a direct contract. For the lady of the is a lingering fear, dare not, do not want to step into another trap again, he once again rejected a lady.
this way, the years.
over the years, on the class. The first thing is to find Miss asked to sign a contract to do. signed the contract on the house one by one friends, I hesitated. Although they are not honest on the many developers hate the performance, although they are reluctant to accept the contractual terms of the King, though they do not want to cheat, but for the hearts of the house dreams, they compromise, they signed, get a paper contract, were delighted at the same time, more frustration, pain.
, like me, 30 households. For our , has been seeing someone for a mortgage down, signed by someone else's name. I heard surprised, asked: Have you not afraid of house property rights problems in future? room lovers say: no way, ah, do not sign, forcing developers to check out, and I signed and signed by the person had a protocol to prove that the house is mine. I ask: Are you so sure that the legal effect of agreement? you then believe that the man? Room Friends of the helpless, speechless.
noon the next day, the use of work time, I holding a full set of procedures to reach the sales office again. I was indifferent to me, young lady, perhaps in her mind I do not know how to work around a person. coldly say ;, then went alone into the office meals.
friends to go with me seeing this, then do not fight a gas to, he tried to attack, was I pulled over, to understand what I said, patience, etc. and so on. ten minutes, twenty minutes, half an hour later, Miss was slowly coming out. period, I went to press a bit. Miss: The company that provided now or not issued by the family show that can not handle! fee for a barbarian tongue, miss our sales manager that you find it. and friends with access to distribution through the office. handsome male managers to be very polite, but when listened to our situation, it would not be a smile, said to look at our procedures. When you see more watches the room number, the manager said: not my signature above, ah, count of. Then I realized it was time to give me miss a set. At that time, I really want to manager of a slap in the face. I pay 30,000, you do not say how incomplete procedures? Finally, the smell of gunpowder filled the scene, the manager gave the sentence: The only way is to check out! hear, I wish I could pound him a black eye. After the theory is, ask him to give me a reply. can behold, the manager said: check out, I was the executor of the company system, I only explained that regardless of the other. It was at this time, and I came Friends took the phone shoot the manager in front a bit, did not expect the manager actually lost his temper, that you do, what right have you shoot, you have pictures of me open, I'll sue you harm my portrait. Friends of developers has long been the last straw and they refute him. looked at the site without any results, I Qiangyanuhuo, and friends left the sales offices.
not want to give up, because the input too much, because not willing to give up, because the heart has long been repressed for a long time ... too many reasons for anger ... I still holding on until now, perhaps the final outcome is tragic - was forced to check out! But I still willing to stick with it. discuss a fair for themselves, but also for the general public by the house of pain.
At this point, I was thinking, Why do people buy a house in a vulnerable position? developers lack of integrity, greed, the state system is not perfect, laissez-faire regulatory developer ... ... In addition to these reasons, I think, a very important factor, that is to buy a house developers who contributed to the compromise arrogance. as an ordinary home buyers, is not it also should learn Chongqing ; nail house , what can it?
Anyway, I still insist, as for how long, I do not know. Maybe when I signed the contract successfully, I will not insist. Maybe I'm going to give up the house, through the media, get justice network, I will not insist. also, perhaps, after the two sessions held on the property have a relatively sound system constraints, I will not have to adhere to.
all wait and see it. Although This process is painful.
chapter how this sort of compensation to be the worst
sure, if developers push back room, I asked for compensation, because this is what I deserve. how compensation? how much compensation? This is indeed a problem. First of all, 30,000 application money must be returned, and follow the bank rate of interest; the cost of 300 yuan to buy a house number must be returned, because the number brought me endless worry and trouble . Second, the original purchase price of the house is 3,400 yuan per square meter, but now has risen to 4,150 yuan per square meter, so I asked developers to compensate for this difference, that :4150-3400 = 750, multiplied by the house construction area of 93 square meters, a total of 69,750 yuan. looking at house prices soaring, I understand why developers pressing check out. Again, nearly 1 year's time, for this house, I suffered a tired, run down the legs, speaking broken the heart, the only reason is because the developers are not honest, so I seek compensation for mental damages, mental torture charges, a total of 10 million.
cost of adding more than 4, 30000 +300 +69750 +100000 = 200,050 yuan, a total of 200,050 yuan, get hold of an integer, 20 million!
Maybe everyone does not agree with me that heard of an ordinary home buyers through the legal channels to obtain the appropriate compensation cases, so the idea of more than an idea at best, almost naive. As for real life, I will drop what what kind of Perhaps dignity. Of course, the compensation provided that the developer of the room forced me back.
if my compensation is successful, that any future developer would dare to bully we common people? lose him die! < br> If my compensation fail, we - ordinary home buyers will be hard for developers knife.
if the law supports me, and that the majority of the people to see hope, as they strive to the interests of their own deserve.
choice
Chapter Miss yesterday received a sales call, saying it was not a contract within three days, for an automatic check-out, the house will re-sales. not I do not want sign, but the developer refused to sign because of immediate family members still can not provide proof! developers to show the infamous face exhaustive.
smoothly through a friend had wanted to sign a contract, I did not expect the result will be the case. Development Company executives said - must provide proof of immediate family members, even a fake! and now developers have also introduced a new requirement: must present original documents, copies of work! I did not want to know now, developers from top to bottom, are know the actual situation to buy a house, why should the introduction of these so-called policy to make trouble for us? from top to bottom, are aware of false documents in the form of just going through the motions, why should be so hard to implement? home buyers pay for their own money has a home, how to be so hard?
now, I do not want to cheat, and even friends that I overly pedantic, but I fear not come out of thin air. the original developer has repeatedly promised, the contract does not there will be problems, but now it? After signing the agreement, saying that by the end of October last year, before the opening, can be a full night of 3 months. opening after the slow progress of the works, and now I bought the floor was a pit. ask why, Miss They just kept saying good things, act dumb. the developer has repeatedly broken its promise to buy a house, I ask, who would dare to believe again that their empty promises?
who is now the first lady has refused to pick me up sales calls, listen to friends say, is scared, can be destroyed in her hand, I was not alone.
Now, I am worried, what is false response to the developers to sign a contract, or helpless geocentric reluctantly give up the house? also There is no other way out? hesitate to bother. another choice.
have no friends to solve this???
Now I can say the name of the developer - the Xi'an City Commercial Property Co., Ltd. million, Feng Yun Patio!!! too outrageous!
Chapter whether to insist on?
last night, this afternoon, things are busy with the house, consult with a lawyer, find the media, although some people are out of ideas, but does not seem to change my actual situation, all of which are still changing, and tomorrow is the deadline, and whether the contract successfully, or check out later to be compensation, know nothing about.
finally contacted the afternoon I bought the owner of that number, I thought would be helpful to the developer's reply made me very disappointed - even found the owner, you still have to prove the relationship between the two, it's to the original marriage certificate! I'm speechless. whether lawyers, or journalists, said it is the developer of pre-set the trap, step by step will lead to buy a house in, the final Tongzai knife. lawyers say that if an effective evidence, the developer is clearly fraudulent behavior, according to the law, developers must not only pay the application money refunded, but also to pay compensation.
accidentally saw a news Guangdong Province, because the developer to force the Check out the owners sued, and ultimately the court ruled that developers compensate homeowners, that now houses the original purchase price and the time difference between the price. It is in the country, and rare, especially in the developer in a strong status of the big situation, so calm down a decision no doubt the majority of buyers fragile heart sinking.
a lot of friends tried to persuade me to give up, check out directly, get your money back, dismissed. and I do consumption can not afford, after all, is now the most important cause, the other in the future will be a bonus. whether to insist on? to contemplation ... ...
Chapter VI completely let go
3.15, International Consumer Rights Day, many vigorous activities of the various rights, the bravado, the thunder, little rain, the wind like passed without leaving a trace. For large, long-term disadvantaged groups of ordinary consumers, in fact, this day and normal life there is no fundamental difference, therefore, they are in a vulnerable position, and not because of the arrival of this day there is a fundamental change, they still have to go through a variety of consumer traps, still have to try every means to safeguard their legitimate rights and interests, concerns remain frustration and pain in life. and I, is one of them. But, I got rid of the shackles of going on for nearly 1 year, return to a normal life. Although some can not be reconciled, but also some frustration, after all, the house can be troubles have been temporarily came to an end.
Feng Yun Patio Although things end this way, but I still have something to say, in order to give herself attention to an account of my friend, more a friend to remind the general needs of the house Perhaps my experience from which we can learn something, no matter whether lessons learned, experiences Ye Hao, or resonance.
3 �� 14 �� 10am. looking at the house there is no hope, I call the local 12315, ask for help. while a busy tone after a woman's voice came from the microphone in - less than 5 minutes of talk time. After the phone in accordance with 12315, I call the past, a man said - , busy, no answer ... ... half an hour, pass out. is no answer. disappointed efficiency of these departments is very disappointing. At the time, I seem to fall into despair. atheism to browse the web, suddenly a phone number appeared in my sight --01012315, CCTV 3 * 15 party hotline. In fact, just saw this phone, I do not have much hope, but still try to call the past. once, a busy tone. Second, pass, and a male operator connected me Tel. Next is to tell the other side is a detailed record of my circumstances and details of developers of recording, and finally said, I am a little frustrated at the time that this is once again shirk. I did not expect, after a few minutes, take the initiative to fight each other over the phone, asking me the full address of the developer, the other very politely asked me a Request - Can be a questionnaire? about the content of what you usually do not receive spam messages, TV shopping has not acted fraudulently, and so on. Soon, the call will end.
wait.
Prior to this, I asked a friend to help coordinate a media issue, at 13:00 on the 14th the answer is negotiation, do nothing, the only way to check out only .3 points, once again received a friends phone, said that private developers are willing to resolve this things, and a friend of my room number to be around .4, I received a construction and real estate market in Xi'an management of the telephone, said that SAIC sent a complaint to their fax, on Monday I was 17 morning to visit them there, to understand the situation .5 point, there is room friends called and said a reporter went to investigate the sales office, let me see, and they asked me, ; I would looking for it, but no one is willing to embrace this thing. or understand the unspoken rules. once asked a friends in the media, saying that when the exposure violations of real estate developers, how do you deal with? answer is: advertising is the key protection and more and less general object of protection. heard this, I am helpless , but also expressed understanding. After all, the media have to eat, but the developer is one of them to serve.
for my troubles, I have consulted lawyers, the answer can be achieved through litigation to resolve. Also, some strong evidence collection, written materials, audio and video recording and so on. as ordinary people, so they certainly are very difficult. but also very exhausting litigation, my job does not allow me to God consumption elsewhere. So going to court in this way, I will no longer consider.
from the psychological point of view, it is not hard to understand why developers because of the outrageous arrogance. It is precisely because we have so The idea, developers will wantonly oppress the people of fraud.
3 �� 17 early in the morning, I went to Xi'an, the real estate market, construction management. a staff developer mistakenly thought I was sent staff, and he took my share of complaints fax view, said: crux of the problem. is essentially a question and answer style, say less than 5 minutes, the developer had sent people to listen to each other's tone, as if the matter does not understand, at a loss to record a little content. management staff of developers under the ultimatum sent by people like that: Let the owners and sales offices to go with you to solve the problem, the results must be this afternoon to tell me. and then said to me: After solving, you come sign off words, I reported to the SAIC. The staff has repeatedly re-sound, tomorrow is the deadline, I must report the Administration, so be sure to give me an answer this afternoon. In this way, the developer sent me out with that person the management, he took my phone and said something to contact you, then their running around tending to the.
everyone thinks things may be a turning point, but who think of the people so helpless. 14:00, then the developer the sales lady - I now call property consultant, said let me go check out and return what I paid 3 million subscription payment. Is this the final outcome of my complaint? I still do not want to believe that the complaint to complain to, and ultimately ended in failure this end.
now, I still have not received the real estate market in Xi'an construction management of the phone, still not received a developer solution to the problem, and finally, when writing this an essay, I decided to let go, let go completely.
I will not fight, no worries, no longer shameful act for developers and angry, I want to return to normal life, to continue the work I love . At this time, I was thinking: I am a journalist can face when their legal rights infringed upon, I was so powerless. people encounter such problems, you can find the media, but when media professionals encounter problems, what should be looking for? off the cloak of a reporter, I am still an ordinary people.
If the court, I think my chances of winning bigger, because my hand is not only written evidence, but also with audio and video recording. can, I give up, because consumption of God. suddenly remembered an old saying: Do you think Yamen is to give your home open?
all this trouble comes from Feng Yun Patio's Miss F - Jiang Qianru, and developers a difficult one, mercenary, shameless merciless ladies vexatious is strong backing. relevant functional departments of buck-passing, the system is not perfect, and so factors also contributed to the evil developers.
Maybe tomorrow, the streets in Xi'an, you will see a run around, find the ideal home for young men ... ...

the end of Chapter VII of the nightmare the morning to go out, overcast a lot and sporadic rain fall, some cold.
busy work at hand, my mind has emerged out of the house, things did not get paid 3 million subscription payment, this matter is not finished on. Thus, to the sales lady called phone, request a refund for 30,000 yuan. may have to wait for her call, Miss excuse wordy for a while, saying that no cash sales offices, need to pay back the principal and other people buy a house before you can cobble together. in a row that a number of her times , or the developers do not want to quibble with my phone hung up in less than half an hour, they received a sales lady in the call, said the formalities over it. So, with the agreement and the receipt to the sales offices.
rain harder and harder, as well as wind, warm sun is shining and the weather a few days ago compared to today's weather has been bad. perhaps not very smooth water pipes, water hindered the road ahead of pedestrians deep foot light came on foot sales offices.
first door, they saw a row at the front desk lady, who is also one of my only one sent out, and I really do not want to say, accelerate the pace and went into the office. wait a few minutes, I will go through the formalities completed. to get 3 million of that moment, I have a strange mind taste, but more of a relief. Although a disadvantage, workers of God, took heart, on fire, you can finally go out from this trap. fast out of the sales office into the bank, to 30,000 Yuan deposits inside. heart at ease by.
in the formalities, I look to the site in the past, still no improvement, I still bought a pit, Building 2, see here, I feel some joy, because the developers said the progress was not submitted to time and proportional to, when to live in, it now appears it is still unknown. In the process of buying, understanding a few able to talk to roommates, they almost uniformly in order to marry and buy a house, even some have already started preparations for the decoration, everything OK, you can marry in the scenery. to let them worry about whether the schedule submitted to the developer. There roommates even said with a smile, Do not wait too was born the only child living inside. Although this is joke, but the risk can be �ڷ� exist, especially in cities such as Xi'an million developers dishonesty, the problem even more.
from now on, I no longer anything to do with Feng Yun Patio. the experience of my future life may be of considerable help, can be considered my life a little plain rough. learn from past experiences, after experiencing such things, I think I will never again be a rashly.
Chapter VIII wondering what Lost
the end though, but the problems exposed, but we should draw lessons from relevant government departments as well.
I. No real estate out of the ground, even only a few pit, why developers do under the pre-sale permit a smooth, open sales?
Second, the opening bell, why hundreds of people line up overnight room number? how many of them Malicious real estate speculators? How many people really need a house?
Third, the original begin at 8 am Telephone Number, and why the previous night, developers have Telephone Number?
Fourth, pay before and after sales Miss and developers face two distinct but also explains what?
five, when home buyers of the legitimate rights and interests are infringed upon, in addition to their King unconditionally accept the terms of developers, are there any ways to protect their own rights? media, 1 ...